Or anyone else for that matter.
I’ve never understood that whole jealousy thing. I mean, don’t get me wrong. There’s always been a little bit of a twinge of green when I see friends who are kidless and traveling the world, but that’s about where my jealousy begins and ends.
When I was growing up, I wanted to be more banana-shaped as opposed to the big-hipped pear that I am, but I wasn’t jealous of people who are banana-shaped. Some of my very close friends are banana-shaped. I’m not and that’s A-OK.
I really, really would love to be driving an Infinity G37. Manual transmission. Black. Black leather interior. And when I see one on the road, I salivate a little. (OK, a lot) But I’m not jealous. I’m ridin’ dirty in my mini van, yo.
I was recently accused of being jealous of someone because they’ve lost a ton of weight through gastric bypass, and because they are in a “better” position than me in life, and I’m like, “Whaaaaaat?!”
That couldn’t be further from the truth.
The truth is, I’m not jealous of you, or anyone else for that matter.
Because I’ve got this self-love thing down. I might have some weight to lose, but I’m in the best shape I’ve been in, in 10 years. I’m also making a living doing what I LOVE. I’m writing, encouraging, making things happen, and I’m in advertising. My career dreams are coming true, they just don’t look exactly the way I expected them to look when I set out into the big, bad world 15 years ago.
I’m not jealous of other people because I’m too absorbed in making myself better, on working on my marriage, on furthering my career, and on just doing ME than to worry about what anyone else is doing. Other people’s dreams aren’t mine, they are theirs, and I love seeing other people’s dreams come true, I really do. But my dreams are coming true too, and for anyone to expect that my dreams are the same as theirs is silly. And narcissistic.
I don’t care what people think about me because I know that I’m beautiful, I know that I’m smart, I know that I’m inspiring, I know that I’m a hard worker, I know that if I want something, I will work hard to obtain it, no matter what stands in my way. I make things happen.
I’m not jealous of other people’s bodies because our bodies are completely differently shaped. My body is unlike anyone else’s in the world. Your body is your own and unlike anybody else’s in the world. We are all unique, different, and perfectly created. Rest in that and know that you are made just the way you were intended to be.
There’s a difference between having self-love and being prideful. Prideful people want people to be jealous of them. They want people to envy them. They walk around with an air of hate wafting all around them.
That’s not me. I want to use my self-love to inspire people, to make people realize that they can be better than they already are. I want people to know that you never stop growing, and the day you think you’re done growing is the day you start dying. I don’t want people to be jealous of me, or to envy me. I don’t want that hate directed my way. I want people to find inspiration in me.
Why would anyone want to be seen as bitter? Because that’s how being prideful looks. When people have had things just handed to them, they forget what it is like for those of us who have to work for what we want. But when you’ve had to work hard for everything that you have, for the way that you look, for your place in life, you gain a humble pride that inspires, not drives people away. Don’t walk around thinking people are envious of you all the time. They probably aren’t and it just makes you look ugly, no matter how beautiful you are on the outside.
People should live their lives in a way that is inspiring to others and chase their own dreams, not somebody else’s. Don’t think that everyone is chasing your dreams, they’re not. They’re chasing their own dreams.
Until you learn to love yourself and stop caring what people think, you’re always going to be unhappy. That sort of self- and other-people loathing makes people appear fake. Love yourself because you’re worth loving.
Nobody likes hate.
Everybody likes love.
Project love and love will come back to you.