I’ve been wanting to write this for quite some time, but I’ve been afraid of offending people. Contrary to popular familial belief, I really don’t like offending people. I really like to keep the peace and the mean comments just totally bum me out, but the time has come. This needs to be said.
STOP THE INSANITY!
Everything these days is Curvy Girl-this and Curvy Girl-that. You’re not plus-sized anymore, you’re curvy. You’re not fat anymore, you’re curvy.
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
Curvy is a shape, not a size.
Can you be fat and curvy? Yes. Can you be thin and curvy? Yes. Can you be athletic and curvy? Yes.
Are all fat people curvy? NO. Are all thin people curvy? NO. Are all athletic people curvy? NO.
Y’all! Leave the curve to the curvy girls, please. For those of you who may be a little confused, Curvy describes a body that has a small waist, larger hips, ample bottom, and sometimes big boobs. For those of us who are ACTUALLY curvy and in our 30s or higher, we’ve fought our entire lives to make people believe that curves are not just fat. We’ve been average weight, we’ve been thin, and some of us have been overweight. At every size, we’ve fought for body respect. In a world where the rectangle-shape reigns supreme, we’ve battled fat stereotypes so that people understand that a big butt and wide hips doesn’t mean we’re fat.
It means we’re curvy.
This INSANE insistence that everyone who is overweight is curvy, when really they’re just overweight, really pisses me off. It also pisses the guys on OK Cupid off too. They come to your picture because they’ve searched for a curvy girl (READ: A girl with a small waist, big butt) and they find an overweight apple, not an overweight curvy girl, but an overweight apple. Can we just be honest with ourselves for half a minute?
Now, I’m not a fat-hater. I’m fat too. I’ve spent the past 5 years battling the effects of pregnancy-induced-bed-rest, and a voracious appetite for all things ice cream. I’ve been a skinny curvy girl, an athletic curvy girl, an average curvy girl, and I’m now a fat curvy girl. The thing is, Curvy girls, we don’t gain much weight in our midsection. We gain it in our butt and thighs. So even though I’m overweight, it’s still pretty obvious what shape I am.
And for people to be associating Curvy with Fat REALLY, REALLY ticks me off. Like REALLY ticks me off.
Curvy has FINALLY become accepted again and for girls who aren’t really curvy, but instead chubby, to be using it to define themselves? It’s not OK.
In a world where body acceptance is becoming the norm, stop trying to squeeze yourselves into a box that you just don’t fit in. Please? So you’re not curvy? What are you?
Well, there’s Apple, Pear, Hourglass, and Rectangle.
Pears and hourglasses are curvy. No matter WHAT size they are – super thin or super overweight – pears and hourglasses ARE curvy.
Apples and Rectangles are not curvy. No matter what size they are – super thin or super overweight – apples and rectangles are NOT curvy.
BUT WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL. WE ARE ALL SEXY. NO MATTER WHAT SHAPE WE ARE!
Now, I’m not saying curvy is the only sexy body shape. That’s simply not true. ALL women have the potential to be sexy. Sexy is not a body shape. Sexy is not a body size. Sexy is an attitude. It is a positive attitude that reflects how you see yourself, not how you see other women, and not how you think other women see you. It is an attitude that you reflect outwardly that in turn shows people that you are confident in what you are, who you are, and what you have to offer the world. Jealousy is not sexy. Self doubt is not sexy. Bitchiness is not sexy. Calling yourself curvy when you’re not, that’s not sexy.
You cannot be sexy when you keep trying to squeeze yourself into a body shape that doesn’t belong to you. Stop trying to be something you’re not and start having confidence in the shape that belongs to you. They make fabulous clothes, like peplum tops, that give the illusion of curve. If you want to look like you have curves, start buying clothes that make you look like you have curves.
But guess what? You’re still not curvy. You’re still whatever shape you were born with. And you’re still capable of being sexy no matter what shape you are. Need a reminder of how awesome you are, no matter what size? Make sure you read this article about 15 things absolutely all women need to hear regardless of size.
So stop the insanity! You’re overweight? Own it. Or don’t, and do something about it.
But for the love of all things pear, please stop calling yourself curvy.
Now check this awesome article out on the various different body SHAPES out there. Figure out which one you are and roll with it. You are sexy, even if you aren’t a curvy girl.